When Other People Will not Change.

I've discovered that you can't change people. They can change themselves. - Jim Rohn
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We all want to be loved and accepted, just as we are. 

We want people to honor our interests,

Value our needs,

and respect our choices in life. 

So, why then, do we expect other people to sacrifice theirs for us?

Why do we hope people will change their goals. habits, and values 

to be better align with ours

when they haven't given us any indication they'd be happier do it?

Sometimes we think we know what's best for others,

but if we're honest with ourselves, 

we'll likely realize we want people change 

when we simply don't feel satisfied being in a relationship with them as they are. 

Relationship are all about compromise, and there's no such thing as a perfect match. 

But we owe it to ourselves to recognize what's non-negotiable in relationships,

so we don't end up resentfully sacrificing our needs while secretly hoping the people we're with will make it worth our while. 

The people we want to change- there are others out there who'd accept and even value them,

just as they are. 

We can appreciate them for all their unique quirks, interests, and preferences. 

Or we can set them free and create the possibility of finding better matches. 

We deserved to be happy in our relationships. 

That starts with choosing to be with people we'd never want to change.  

-Lori Deschene